Home Care Vs Nursing Home During Covid

It has been many months since I have been able to hold my grandmother’s hand or give her a  hug. I miss singing to her and rubbing her back. Is she feeling lonely or scared?

Covid has brought tremendous challenges to families who have loved ones in nursing homes. The nursing homes must enforce strict rules for visitation in order to keep their patients safe. I fully respect and understand that. At the same time, I wonder if her quality of life would be better at home with a live-in caregiver. Her children and grandchildren would be able to come and visit her with masks and social distance. She would get to hear the kids singing. I wonder if the programs that she used to have in the nursing home are running in the same way that they used to. Is the nursing home bringing her enough value?
I am starting to wonder if seniors are better off at home these days.

IS A LIVE IN ELDER CAREGIVER RESPONSIBLE TO CARE FOR MOM OVERNIGHT?

We get this question all the time. Is a live in caregiver responsible to care for the senior during the night, or does another caregiver need to be hired to do the night shift?

A live in Caregiver can not be expected to work a 24 hour shift. If the senior requires care during the night,  you do need to hire someone that can be responsible for the night shift.

 If care at night is not required, and the caregiver is there only in case of emergency, most caregivers would be comfortable with that arrangement. You can possibly arrange with the caregiver that if an emergency ever comes up, you will pay her for her time.

Best of luck hiring!

Our Caregiver Angels

Our beloved grandmother passed away 6 weeks ago. The funeral was difficult as we said farewell to a woman we loved. Suddenly, we noticed these 3 beautiful woman, off to the side.
 
These woman were the most important people in Bubbys life for the last decade. These woman were Bubbys angels and each one of them meant the world to us.
 
This was not just a job to these incredible woman. These woman cared for and loved our grandmother as if she were their own family.
 
We will never forget you Daisy, Wilma & Mira. You mean the world to us. You were the best caregivers. You are our family. We will love you forever.

 

Is it Time Yet? When is an Elder Caregiver a Necessity?

It was a Thursday. My grandmother fell again and we all looked at each other and knew that it was time. Our Grandmother who cooked and baked and prided herself on her independence, could no longer be alone. Who would tell her? Nobody wanted that dreaded  job. She would be angry. She would say it was a complete waste of money. She would hate having a stranger invade her personal space. 
 
Telling someone you love, that they need care can be difficult and very painful. Here are some questions to ask yourself to help determine if care may be needed:
1) Has your senior been falling or getting hurt?
2) Is your senior more forgetful? Is he paying the bills? Is she missing appointments?
 3) How is her/ his mental health? Is he lonely or depressed? Does she socialize?
4) Can he keep the house clean?
5) Can she get dressed, shower, make meals? 
6) Is he taking his medication properly?
 
My Grandmother was very resistant when we brought up the idea. As a young widow, she had  been on her own for almost 45 years. We were lucky enough to find a wonderful caregiver name Connie. She took care of my grandmother for 5 years. They cooked and baked together. They talked and went to appointments together. Connie kept the house clean and was there for my grandmother always. Although it was a huge adjustment for my grandmother, it did not take long for her to grow to love Connie.